Instead of focusing on what you want for your special day, think of how you can help others.  Set a theme around a need in your area, like an animal shelter.  Choose a shelter near you.  All animal shelters are struggling.  They need donations of food, foster parents and your time.  Instead of having your guests send you presents, ask for things your animal shelter may need. You can have lots of fun with your animal themed party. When the party is over, you can deliver your presents to all the animals. When you give,  your heart receives so much more back.